If you ask people what they really want in life or what they want for their family and friends, the answer more often than not is to be happy. And while you cannot be happy every minute of every day, I believe that being happy is a choice you can make on a daily basis.
With that in mind here are nine small changes that you can build into your everyday life to help you make the choice to be happy.
1 Have an expectation for the day
You have the ability to decide what sort of a day you are going to have. I think that if there is one big truth about life it is that life is a self-fulfilling prophesy. If you wake up saying “it’s going to be a crap day” then more likely than not it will be. This is because our brains will look for all the events in the day that confirm that we are having a crap day – it’s called confirmation bias. So wake and say to yourself “today is going to be a good day” and, guess what, your brain will look for all the events that are good and more likely than not you will have a good day.
2 Take time to plan and prioritise your day
One of the most common sources of stress for people is the feeling that you have too much to do and not enough time to do it in. So rather than try and do everything, pick one, two, or three things that if you can work on to move you towards your highest purpose and goals, and work on those things as a priority.
3 Limit your time with negative people
We all have people in our lives, either friends or family, that are look at life as a cup half empty or are never satisfied, or are always criticising others in order to make themselves feel better. Negativity can be contagious, you may not be able to cut these people out of your life completely but you can limit the time you spend with then.
4 Treat your body with respect
Often when we are busy or rushed we grab the first thing at hand to eat and that is more often than not a high fat, high sugar food. At least once a day try to have a healthy meal, and eat it slowly – sit down enjoy and appreciate what you are eating. At least once a week go for a walk or do some cardio or any other activity that you like that involves getting the heart pumping.
5 Let things go
The number one enemy of happiness is worry. Worry comes from focusing your energy on events or situations that you have no control over. Once you have taken all the action you can on any particular situation and there is nothing more you can do, focus on another task rather than on the thinking about the “what ifs” that are out of your control.
6 Acknowledge others
Say thank you, and hello; smile; don’t be on your mobile phone when you are being served; be encouraging of others. If you have received particularly good service make a point of seeking out their supervisor and telling them of the great service.
7 Turn off the background noise
Learn to be with yourself without the modern day background noise of facebook, Instagram, texting, and snapchat. Do the same with your friends and family – spend time without the background noise and enjoy just being in the moment.
9 End the day with a gratitude
Before you go to bed each night think of one thing that you are grateful for that happened that day. It could be something small, like having coffee with a friend or big, like closing a major business deal. Whatever it is, be grateful for your day because you don’t have a chance to go back and do it again.
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